Living with overly strict parents can feel like choking after a point, with more curfews and less appreciation. Whether it is the 8 p.m. bedtime at 25, or being asked to explain why you are texting someone at 9 p.m. on a weekday, the pressure can slowly drain your sanity.
Now, feeling anxious, suffocated, or low when your freedom is policed all the time is valid. Constantly being monitored, criticised, or guilt-tripped can quietly chip away at your confidence and emotional wellbeing.
So, how do you survive the parental prison without going full teenage rebel or ghosting your family group chat forever?
1. Speak Up
Telling your parents they are being overbearing might go down as smoothly. But sometimes, a calm, respectful conversation can work wonders. Try the old “I feel” approach: “I feel anxious when I am not allowed to make decisions on my own.” It is not magic, but it is a start, and at least you will earn respect for maturity.
2. Set Boundaries
Boundaries are not only for bad people. They are also needed for healthy family relationships. Begin in small ways. Perhaps it is insisting on privacy in your bedroom or not telling them every single thing you chat about on WhatsApp. You are not being "disrespectful." You are exercising your right to be treated as a human being.
3. Build Your Mental Strength
If changing your parents is not an option, focus on managing your own mind. Journaling, or therapy, can be weirdly therapeutic. Surround yourself with people that do not demand hourly updates on your whereabouts.
4. Have a Long-Term Escape Plan
Sometimes, the healthiest option is distance. If your mental health is seriously taking a hit, consider moving out. Freedom often comes with self-discovery.
